Many people asked me how marriage life is. Now, here’s the answer:

Marriage Life

Now, don’t buy anyone’s words who say that marriage life sucks. Here are some reasons why I love being married:

  1. You always have someone to talk to about your issues.
  2. You are no longer afraid of sleeping alone. :)
  3. There’s someone you can go with through all Jakarta’s notorious traffic jams.
  4. You have someone to make your breakfast (in this case, I am the one how make it :) )
  5. You have someone to wake you up in the morning (I usually wake up very late!)
  6. ….. you want to add more? ;)

Hello again!!

We’re just back from Kampung Sampireun, our honeymoon place, a couple of days ago.. The honeymoon was amazing! :)

Some of the wedding photos are now available. You can see it from the slideshow below or go to:

Terlepas dari kegelisahan dan kekuatiran akan segala sesuatu yang harus diurus untuk mempersiapkan pernikahan, semisal: gereja, gedung, makanan, pakaian, undangan, acara, sound system, pemusik, penerima tamu, souvenir, make up, de el el…; ada satu hal lagi yang tak kalah pentingnya: menjaga perasaan!

Menjaga perasaan diri sendiri dan perasaan orang lain. Yang pertama sudah cukup sulit untuk dilakukan, mengingat semakin mendekati hari H semakin stress, semakin cepat marah, semakin cepat tersinggung. Yang kedua jauh……jauh…..lebih sulit lagi. Orang lain tidak peduli apakah kita lagi pusing dengan persiapan pernikahan atau tidak, tidak peduli bahwa di saat2 seperti ini ada kalanya kita melakukan sesuatu yang di luar kebiasaan, tidak peduli bahwa kita nyaris gila, yang pasti mereka harus tetap diperlakukan sebagaimana mestinya.

Jadi ada satu hal yang perlu ditambahkan dalam to-do list setiap pasangan yang mempersiapkan pernikahan: menjaga perasaan!

Now we are dealing with procedures to get our ‘civil record’ for our wedding. Anyway, is that the right translation for ‘catatan sipil’? I don’t know.. If anyone has any idea what the name is in English, please tell me.

I just realise that actually Indonesia implements two different systems on marriage civil records based on religions. For muslims, they don’t have to subscribe their application for the ‘catatan sipil’. The reason is, because muslims have their own ‘kantor urusan agama’ (‘office for religious affairs’) who takes care of muslims’ marriages. For Christians, we have to do the ‘catatan sipil’, although we actually have our own ‘office for religious affairs’, which is: the Church.

Now, why do we have two different systems for this case? Why does the state have different systems for different religions?  Why not applying the same procedures for all citizens disregarding their religions? Isn’t it already, in a way, an implementation of what-so-called ‘Syariat Islam’?

Hello..! More photos are now uploaded at our flickr site. We also have put a banner at the sidebar, which you can directly click any of the photos in there.

The photos are from our pre-wed photo sessions and taken beautifully by Max John Rawung of Maxie Photography (Ph. 0812-2771372).

Finally.. Now it’s only one month before the D-day.. I have sent emails around for all friends and colleagues, and this is the online invitation. You can also see and download the maps for the church and the wedding hall at the “When and Where” page.

Invitation (click to enlarge):

Online Invitation

batakdance.gifPerhaps some of you, who are not Bataks, wonder what is “Batak Traditional Wedding Ceremony” in the ‘When & Where‘ page.

Well, I might not be an expert about this, but I can tell you it’s very complicated. :-) Why?

First, it will take time about 6 hours (that’s the best estimate. Usually it could take up until 7 hours). Why does it take so long? Because it involves plenty of parties that are related to the big families of the bride and the groom. As you might have heard, Batak tradition has three main parties: hulahula (the wife/mother’s side of family), boru (the husband/s of the man/father’s sisters’ family), and dongan tubu (the father’s brothers). Ah, these main three are already complicated, aren’t they? In the wedding, the ‘hulahula’, ‘boru’, and ‘dongan tubu’ are extended to the father’s father’s level, ie. the groom’s and the bride’s grandparents.

Second, all of the parties must be given time to give their say. Neither of them shall be left behind. You can imagine, if each of them is given 10 minutes, for example, it can take 3x2x2x10 = 120 minutes, that is 2 hours. Plus 1 hour wedding’s procession, 1 hour lunch and 2 hours dancing. So, the total time is 6 hours.

Tiring? Yes. But the next question would be: why do Batak people keep doing this tiring (maybe economists would use the word ‘inefficient’) tradition?

I’ll leave it there for the next post! :-)

We just uploaded some photos, you can have a look at them at the photo page. More will come soon when we’ve finished setting up our flickr page.

Yes, hello world! Welcome to our page. This is us: Martin and Wasty.

This site is about our plan, a huge plan about a certain point of our lives that will significantly change us. In this site, we are going to put all things that we do about the plan. You can browse any page you like, or follow our posts, and have a journey together until the D-day on November 3, 2007.

We wish you to have a pleasant stay at our ‘virtual home’ and of course looking forward to welcome you on November 3, 2007!


Welcome to our page. This is us: Martin and Wasty. This site is about our plan, a huge plan about a certain point of our lives that will significantly change us. We wish you to have a pleasant stay at our ‘virtual home’ and of course looking forward to welcome you on November 3, 2007!

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